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The wedding is over but the adventure has just begun! Thank you to everyone who helped make our wedding a success, from helping with logistics to sharing your joy and enthusiasm and wonderful hugs with us. We love you all!

Social Media

Use our wedding hashtag (#BFW) which stands for Boet-Fischer-Whitaker!

Vows

Ezra’s vows for Sonja

I promise to respect you.

I will treat you as an equal partner in our relationship and in life.
I will understand that your needs are not always the same as mine.
I will prioritize your professional life.

I promise to care for you.

I will help you express your emotions when you want to and help you avoid them when you need to.
I will help you handle mornings without being too annoying.
I will talk to customer service representatives for you.

I promise to be your companion.

I will cook with you.
I will develop new inside jokes and shibboleths with you.
I will read to you while you knit.

I promise to grow with you.

I will learn new skills with you.
I will continue to add foods to my diet.
I will raise a family with you.

I promise to love you.

I will hold your hand before we go to sleep.
I will understand that loving is an active process and choose it every day.
I will fulfill all of these vows as long as they are what we need and add new ones when they are necessary.

Sonja’s vows for Ezra

I promise to respect you.

I will treat you as an equal partner in our relationship and in life.
I will understand that your needs are not always the same as mine.
I will trust you to help me process my thoughts and emotions.

I promise to care for you.

I will ground you when you are feeling anxious.
I will help you handle evenings without being too annoying.
I will lift heavy things for you.

I promise to be your companion

I will cook with you.
I will develop new inside jokes and shibboleths with you.
I will notice when you are grumpy because you are the wrong temperature — and help you fix it.

I promise to grow with you.

I will learn new skills with you.
I will learn to watch and to play new sports with you.
I will raise a family with you.

I promise to love you

I will understand that loving is an active process and choose it every day.
I will hold your hand before we go to sleep.
I will fulfill all of these vows as long as they are what we need and add new ones when they are necessary.

Gifts

Thank you for celebrating with us! We know that for some of you, just getting to the wedding was all you could afford. That’s cool, don’t sweat it. Make us a card!

Home is very important to both of us. We love being cozy in our own home and we love hosting friends and family even more! We’re thrilled that we’ve purchased a place of our own. We can’t think of a better extension of our wedding than to collect contributions to help with the costs of owning a home.

Here are some ways to do that:
Check – If you want to go old school, send a check to either Sonja Boet-Whitaker or Ezra Fischer, 32 Thorndike Street, Arlington, MA 02474.
Venmo – If you are hip with technology, you can Venmo Ezra or Sonja.
Paypal – If you think you’re hip with technology but are actually (like Ezra) a few years behind, you can Paypal him.
Cash – If you’re a Godfather fan and have been waiting for decades to use the line, “Madon’, if this was someone else’s wedding…” bring an envelope with cash!

If you are determined to get us a tangible gift, choose or make something that is meaningful to you! And thanks!

All photos by Cookie Levine except the one above the Events section which shows Sonja looking really cute and the back of Ezra’s head. That photo is by Isabelle Shelby.